Real Dating Advice

There is so much dating advice out there, and I know it can get a little overwhelming.  I think that a lot of these articles are BS and let me tell you why and also offer my alternative advice.


I recently was scrolling through my Facebook feed and I saw a sponsored article for a site that deals exclusively with dating.  Do's and don'ts.  This is the post that I read that set me off. First off, this is a slippery slope.  I couldn't believe that a website that claimed to empower women would call them "crazy" for texting a guy first?

Here's my problem with these types of dating articles.  They belittle women and make us as a gender look like we don't care who the guy is, what he does, or who he is as a person.  We just care about tying them down and getting married.  Here's a real tip,, not EVERY woman is chomping at the bit to marry the next guy to give her a second glace.  I am absolutely no expert at dating, but here are some rules that I try to live by.

1. If you like him, it's ok to contact him first.  Now, use tact.  Don't text a million times, and definitely wait for him to respond, but if he's THE guy for you...you making the initial contact is not only not going to turn him off, he may actually like not having all the pressure on him.

2. It's ok to NOT be into someone.  Don't ever let someone talk you into anything you aren't comfortable with because they have been so "nice" or took you to dinner or something.  This also goes for guys that throw out the friend zone thing.  That's a whole other rant for me, :)

3. Be yourself, This is the number 1 rule in life.  Be who you are and don't pretend to be something you aren't.  Again, the right guy will love and accept you no matter what.

4. If he's not making you feel like you are a priority, like you are beautiful, amazing and special cut him loose.  Simply put, you ARE beautiful, smart, amazing and special.  And if someone is not smart enough to see it then he can hit the bricks.


5. Don't take rejection too personal.  I know this one sucks for everyone, guy and girl.   Sometimes things are meant to be, and most of the time they aren't.  It's ok to have things not work out.  That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, or even something wrong with them...it just wasn't the right person.

6. Be positive.  Everyone wants to be around someone who is happy.  Pretty simple.

7. Love yourself first.  This goes along with some of the rules listed above.  You can't truly love someone unless you love yourself.   Again, besties, you are beautiful, smart, funny and deserve to love and be loved!



What do you guys think of dating articles?  Are they all a bunch of BS or do they have some validity?